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There's time for everything

Nothing is more annoying than "I wish I had time to do that." Time is such a subjective thing that often dictates us—telling what one can and cannot do. Whether we have a lot or a little of it, one thing is for certain...we don't know how much time left in our lives.

If there is really something you want to do, spend five minutes a day doing it. That is the start of making time for something! Five minutes will turn into hours and days if you really find it worth your time. Don't say you don't have time for it. If you really wanted to learn something, spend time with someone or do something, you would make time. Time needs to not be an excuse anymore.

With a few days before I head for Europe indefinitely, I finally thought "oh sh*t, I should probably learn French." The only French I knew before were from films like Amelie. After one afternoon with my friend Mary Lou, I was able to pick up on the language quickly. I think my background in Latin helped, but it really was just taking a few minutes or an hour in a day to commit to it. I now study a bit of French before I go to bed every night.

A few reasons I don't like time:

  • It makes people feel like they should reach some milestone. Ex: "I should be married by age 20-something because my friends are."
  • It becomes a crutch for excuses. Ex: "I didn't get around to it so I couldn't do it."
  • It causes hesitance and reluctance. Ex: "It's just bad timing."

Tomorrow is no guaranty. Sometimes you cannot wait for the tide to be right to do what you want to do. Sometimes it's best not to think about how long it takes for something to be done, or if it's the right time, but merely just trying it and making time for it.

Your homework is to find something you want to do and spend just five minutes a day doing it. Add five minutes more each day after that. Carpe Diem.


Re-united with my old coworker in San Francisco, thanks to Foursquare

I think Foursquare often gets criticized for things it really shouldn't, such as people saying they don't want to use it because they don't want people to know where they are at. Well, that's a great reason to not use it. However, Foursquare is pretty amazing when you're sharing with your friends. I learned that first-hand this week.

I personally have no problem checking into public locations since I'll be in the midst of a bunch of other people—feel relatively safe. I'm also a guy and most people don't want to creep on guys. As usual, I checked into San Francisco International Airport. As I was sitting at a coffee shop, working away, I get a notification via Twitter that my old ExactTarget coworker Meggie checked in at the airport again. I immediately replied to her and said we should meet up.

We ended up meeting in Union Square and got a chance to catch up for a while. If it wasn't for Foursquare, I probably would not have known she was in the same area as me. This is the thing I like about Foursquare.


Meet a tweep: Sabonis is my homeboy (@hyph_en)

This blog post really makes no sense, just like my conversation with my friend Akvile yesterday. We've been following each other on Twitter for a while but yesterday was the first time we finally met. Our conversation was like an episode of Robot Chicken.

We talked about creepin, where we came from, music, movies and...wait for it... Arvydas Sabonis. For those who don't know, Sabonis is a Lithuanian basketball player, quite possibly one of the greatest international players ever. @hyph_en is Lithuanian and we were talking about when she was growing up there. I told her I didn't know anything about Lithuania but knew they really love basketball over there. I mentioned I grew up near Portland and mentioned Sabonis. Her eyes lit up like silver dollars! He is indeed a national hero!

Here's to random conversations...the only way to do it.

Each morning before work, I like to start off with some sort of way to unwind, whether it's looking at LOL Cats or doing a quick random Photoshop image.

This is for Akvile!

Follow her on Twitter, but don't creep on her!


Escape to New York

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I was going to blog about my entire trip to New York but that would take a Hell of a long time. Instead, I'll write them in multiple posts. I'll write about why I went, which is for many reasons, and absolutely none. One of the reasons I decided to go freelance was to be able to travel, see friends, meet people and just work in different locations. It is shocking to people when I told them that I've never been to The Big Apple before. I'm interested in art, design, culture and hipster girls. Why I've never been there before is beyond me.

So I booked a flight and went.

For four days, I just lived my life as a New Yorker: went to work, met new people, visited friends, and yes...even had Sunday brunch. After living in Seattle for five years I've quickly realized how it is merely a large small town. Everyone here seems to know each other and social groups are already established. To make new friends, let alone relationships, is damn near impossible. There was something really charming about the attitude of New Yorkers. I experienced it first hand when I ordered a sandwich and asked the server how she's doing? She looks at me and replies, "What do you want?" I wasn't offended at all, but quickly realized that people have things to do here and places to be. Even the old people push you out of the way if you're walking too slow.

Here are a few photos from my trip:

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My friend Gabrielle, who I randomly met at a coffee shop there. I've never met a girl so nerdy, it amazes me. It should have been Riker

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A convergence of friends. There is something beautiful about all of your friends from different circles meeting and getting along. I absolutely love it. The highlight of this get-together was Jessica meowing on the streets of East Village.

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Meeting Warhol. Those of you who know me well understand my obsession with Andy Warhol. The man is my inspiration and my hero, and the both of us have quite a bit in common. Though I've seen his work in person before, it was such an honor to see his most famous work with my own eyes.

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Vivi! Veronica De La Cruz and I started as strangers on Twitter, and now we're family.

In the evenings I just walked around and intentionally got lost in the city. Something about being a nobody was beautiful. So many people who have so many stories, and it's up to us to hear them and tell our own. As cliche as the Jay Z and Alicia Keys song is, the lights definitely inspire you.

Something has been different with me since I've returned. I need to go back.


The best quality you can find in a girl

While I was waiting for my flight at John F. Kennedy International Airport in New York, I was having lunch and couldn't help but notice this girl my age having lunch by herself. She sat patiently for her food, read a book and spent a good hour on her own. I am used to having meals alone from my consulting days, and it's not an easy thing to do for some people.

Men, I can tell you this. You want to find a girl who can eat at a restaurant by herself.

If you meet a girl who can have a meal by herself, you know that she is comfortable with who she is. Look at it this way—if a girl is unable to have a meal alone, it means she is self-concious or not comfortable with being in the company of herself. Some people may/will always feel the need to have someone to go places with them.

A girl who can have a meal by herself can probably go travel alone, be adventurous and have no regard to what other people think of her.

Next time you go out to eat, take a moment to see what I'm talking about.


How two ducks taught me about love

Ever since I left my job at ExactTarget and began freelancing, I've made it a goal of mine to walk Green Lake every day. The plan was to do it every morning before I start client work and swing into Zoka Coffee afterward to have a drink and visit. Have I done this every day? No, but I'm trying.

I'm very inspired by Twitter creator Jack Dorsey and read in an interview that he liked to go on walks to reflect and think about ideas. One day, I took a second to sit and watch the ducks. They have a special place in my heart because my team at Nike typically used the term "get our ducks in a row" all the time. I snapped a few photos on my phone and noticed these two ducks.

It shook my world.

Whether these ducks were actually a couple or not, what they stood for made me rethink things. I could not help but smile when I saw the two ducks cuddling together, overlooking Green Lake without a care in the world. We as humans seem to complicate things so much. These ducks did not care out much money each other made, what religion they are, how clean they want the house. Hell, they didn't even talk to each other. I sat there for 20 minutes just watching them sit together...not a sound. On occasion they would glance at each other, then look back to the lake.

I never thought I'd say "I want a relationship like those two ducks have" but it was totally true, and still is. I have been in a lot of relationships recently that have been very hurtful and just straight up emotionally abusive to the point of scaring me to even pursue a relationship. It's amazing how these two animals may restore hope for me.


Why I trust EVERYONE

When it comes to strangers, I don't believe in them. A lot of my friends are hesitant to meet new people. At my first stop in a recent trip to San Francisco, I saw this sign that wrote "There are no strangers here, just friends we haven't met." I truly believe that. For me, I'd rather be wrong than have a negative perception of someone.

Here's to finding out everyone's story.


The (MacBook) Air Up There

When the new MacBook Air came out, there were a lot of opinions about it. Some people were super-excited about it, others were haters. I am not pouring any Hatorade on this thing. It's an amazing machine.

My current setup was a MacBook Pro with Cinema Display Monitor, an iPad + iPhone. It's a phenomenal setup to do all my design and development work, but of course, I could use another machine. I went to the apple store and ran into my friend Damon and we chatted about the machine. Well, see the photo below to find out what happened:

I got a lot of criticism for buying it from friends and strangers. Here's the criteria that determined my purchase:

It's my money, I can do whatever I want with it.

Plain and simple—I saved the money myself and will do whatever I please with it. The money I save from not going out, not smoking, dining and other expenses pretty much went to my computer fund. I can't say the same about coffee though. I'm not stinking rich but had some income from freelance work and selling art and decided this was a noteworthy investment.

I work...a lot

My close friends know that I probably work about 80-100 hours a week—whether it's my consulting job, freelance or just on projects. I want to have the best weapons out there. Did they tell Picasso no tier 1 brushes? Did they tell Keith Sweat no velvety smooth vocals? I don't think so. I'm a believe in spending a bit more money to have the top of the line, whether it's a pair of designer jeans or a computer. No, I don't buy Apple because it's apple, but it's the platform I love working with most.

On the go

I travel a lot and have plans to travel heavily in the next few years. I want to have a lightweight machine that has enough firepower, whether I'm in Indianapolis for business or sitting at some cafe in Morocco. Most of the work I do is on the cloud anyway so the hard drive has had no importance to me. I wanted something that could literally fit in an envelope. See below.

Pros:

  • Solid state drive is wicked-fast. Programs open a lot faster than on my MB Pro, which I will definitely get a SSD hard drive for it once the prices drop a bit more.
  • Long-lasting battery. The average trip I take on the plane is about five hours, which is the working battery life on one of these.
  • The perfect secondary machine. I got the 11" so it's the perfect companion for my 15" MacBook Pro. Again, that's what I bought it for. For those of you who play Command & Conquer, I compare my MB Pro to the Mammoth Tank where the MB Air is an Orca.

Cons:

  • Oh snap attack. I seriously feel like I can break it in half. Be very careful—assuming it's delicate.
  • Power off Einstein. The power button is a bit too close to the delete key for comfort. I don't know where else you'd put it, but I might have designed it so it's not the same type of plastic key.

If you bought a MB Air I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.