This week I had the pleasure of meeting my friend’s cousin who was visiting New York. Clare is a recent college grad and flew out to New York to meet with potential companies and people.

I had coffee with her and she picked my brain and told me what I can do to help her. She asked me a lot of great questions and was taking notes the whole time. What pleasantly surprised me was she asked a lot of really specific questions, such as my process from getting from one career to another. I was really impressed to hear such detailed questions.

Clare was probably the most proactive college grads I’ve met in a long time. She has a vision of where she would like to be and asked questions to connect the dots between where she is now to where she wants to be.

It reminded me of this video I saw of Steve Jobs:

“Most people never pick up the phone and call, most people never ask. And that’s what separates, sometimes, from the people who do things and the people who just dream about them.”

People cannot help you and sometimes will not help you if you do not tell them you need help with. You will be surprised how many people are willing to help you, but they have to know you need something.